The One?
I think we’ve all gone thru it.
Married or Dating.
We all had a moment where we look at the person we’re in a relationship with and wondered, Is This It?
Is this the person I’m supposed to be with for the rest of my life?
You’ve been with this person for so long that the little flaws begin to overbear the many good qualities they possess, and you begin to wonder if there’s something more out there for you.
Some may take the route Tiger did.
Some may choose to just take a break.
Some might just end it completely.
And some may just choose to ignore the issue and deal with what they have out of convenience.
Which all means most tend to deal with this situation cowardly.
Is it better to run from those feelings instead of addressing it?
Or is it just not worth discussing?
I’ve heard the excuse, ‘Well, Solomon had many wives’.
So what does that mean?
Is it destine that someone in the relationship will always get the short end of the stick (pause) since Solomon was allowed to be a whore?
Or maybe we’re looking too deeply into this LOVE thing.
Maybe it’s just in our nature to ‘explore’.
For the ancient Chinese proverb does state:
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was. We do not possess anything in this world, least of all other people. We only imagine that we do. Our friends, our lovers, our spouses, even our children are not ours; they belong only to themselves. Possessive and controlling friendships and relationships can be as harmful as neglect.
I blame those damn Disney movies.
There’s no fucking Prince Charming and Happily Ever After.
5 Comments:
HAPPY IS AS HAPPY DOES. HAPPY IS AS HAPPY LOVES! I WOULD CHOOSE TO LEAVE THIS EARTH IF CHRIS WERE'NT IN IT. REGARDLESS OF ANY WRONG-DOINGS ON MY PART HE ALWAYS FEELS THE LOVE CAUSE THE SHIT IS *REAL*. OUR HEARTS BEAT FOR EACH OTHER... DESPITE WHOM WE MAY POTENTIALLY ADMIRE. "THE ONE" IS THE ONE YOU CHOOSE TO LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH. "THE ONE" IS YOURS, BECAUSE YOU CHOOSE TO LOVE & CHERISH THIS PERSON, AND IN TURN YOU ARE THEIRS BECAUSE THEY *CHOOSE TO LOVE AND CHERISH YOU THROUGH BETTER & FOR WORSE, & TIL DEATH DO YOU PART!! NEVER LOSE HOPE MY BESTIE. NO PERSON, PLACE, OR THING IS PERFECT.... BUT THE ONE DOES EXIST. ITS JUST "THE ONE" YOU CHOOSE TO LIVE FOR *NO* *MATTER* *WHAT*. ITS ONLY WHEN YOU DON'T CHOOSE TO MAKE THAT CHOICE, THAT THERE WILL BE NO "ONE". (sidebar: hope this makes sense. We still at the bar!! Bwahahaha)
Totally makes sense.
I've never giving up on love (& never will).
It's all about what you choose to deal with from certain people/situations.
You can't choose love...
i love love love this post. i wonder this shit all the time. like how am i supposed to know if he's it. have i met him? will i instantly know? the ones we love hurt us and put us thru so much so no way there the one right?
i love the disney quote
But of course there's a happily ever after=) Now whether thats a happy marriage for 'everybody' is not likely because it was written; you will not be more blessed if your married nor less blessed if your not. The biggest thing is how you live your life; if you cant keep your legs closed, get married. And if you're a type that lives promiscuously the surely there a spouse you to keep you happy and out of sin. So you can make God look good which essentially is your only purpose in life.
That being said Life is rough, Ppl are rougher and the Devil is roughest of all; always looking for an in... which weakness of faith and flesh easily provides.
But I believe, A) this broken state is not a given no matter what the masses may try to convince us of because A)again, which is the most important of all, "There is no temptation that you cannot withstand" Period. Thus saith the Lord. I do not beleive all men cheat, I do think every mans is susceptible to cheating.
Ive been happily married, devastatedly broken hearted when that happy marriage went south and str8 koolin after the aftermath, not to mention clear eyed as said betrayor continues to try to return to the pre-betrayal place of peace and light. Which you cant do. Which is a whole 'nother story.
And with that being said, happily ever after does exist and no I wont settle of 'cloudy for with a change of meatballs'. Thats doesnt mean setting a ridiclously high standard nor getting so bitter because of slights from the unGodly and unworthy that I block gifts sent my way and it surely doesnt mean become ratchet and lowly like the masses either.
I 3k% agree with you and I'm not taking any shorts. I am a str8 up Queen and my King sees me as I see myself and every day we will grow and became stronger and better together. Im not allowing the ratchet spirit from a niccas jumpoff infect my life physically nor emotionally. Im not and have never been a bottom bish, a jumpdown or a whore (though absolutely Ive make choices that I am not proud of though always learned from my mistakes and have worked to not repeat them) and wont ever be. I dont have anything in common with less thans and refuse to co mingle with 'em. Especially not in my union.
Sooooo I have no problem feeling joyful knowing that my sin is not in walking away, but would be oh so evident if I stayed and ignored the issue and deal with what I had out of convenience, etc., all the things which you listed. How could anyone possibly be the person God intended if theyre in an unholy matrimony???
I'll take Hope and Believe for $800lololol
My Brother once told me that Love is a Myth. The moment you realize that. Your ahead of the game.
(Smiling) I tried for so many years not to believe that statement but it is sadly my truth and I'm married for crying out loud. LAMO):-
The only thing I can say about Love is you've got to fall in Love with the right person. Only then will Love; love you back.
I'm hopeful it still exist.
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