What Happened To Love...
I recently found out that a friend of mine just went through a bad break up.
He lost the girl he thought he was going to marry to good ol’ infidelity.
Probably out of frustration after asking himself why, he sent a BBM asking
‘Is the era of faithfulness over?’
My Answer:
The era of faithfulness is not over.
We're living in a society where cheating or having more than one mate is being imposed on us by many different outlets.
It’s up to us to learn to decipher the difference between what we see being portrayed in the media and what goes on in real life...
The word of God is no longer being instilled in our youth. They took God out of schools and frowned upon morals.
Which led me to believe, we as people (in America) don't believe in 'love' anymore. It’s now a game on a reality show to see who gets the last glass...
But what it really boils down to, is your upbringing.... If you believe in monogamy, you are more willing to fight/work for that love instead of having 4 or 5 different mates running around because that's what society deemed as 'cool'.
But then again, there are people that are never satisfied, and those are their demons...no one else's.
I guess that wasn’t the answer he was looking for, because I never received a response.
To be betrayed by the person you love is a pain that I would not wish on my worst enemy.
It’s like your world is going to end because you can’t seem to recall how you survived before you met that person.
But it’s all apart of this thing called life.
God put and take people out your life for a reason....A reason some of us will never figure out.
8 Comments:
Your friends betrayal may be a blessing beneath the guise of a curse. It may give him a chance to meet someone he could possibly cherish more than his ex. Who knows..
But what I do know is True Love conquers all. (You already know that's my motto)
& yeah, taking God out & putting the brainwashing Media into Society ain't really helping nobody!
Great post as always.. :)
-MEL
Thanks hun ;)
Yeah I believe things went down the way it did because she was not meant for him. Just wished he didnt have to experience the pain that comes along with losing someone you love.
I co-sign your reply to his statement. It's pretty much on a more personal level when one person cheats on another. It IS infidelity itself yet, as you stated, there are demons somewhere in the mix.
Man. Who you telling! @ To be betrayed by the person you love is a pain that I would not wish on my worst enemy.
Well. I'm going to gone & comment although my opinion differs. I'm a cheater. I struggle with it & it's not about what the media or society says about it that makes me do it. I do it because it's my demon. (which you alluded to, but u suggested it's something one WANTS to do).
Some people struggle with alcoholism, others with drug abuse, lying, theft... People have vices: none probably as hurtful to the heart as cheating. I'd like to see a day when people look truly at the root cause of addictive behaviors, rather than just slapping labels on people like moral-less or poor values, or weak in faith. I am none of the above. But cheating has been my vice.
As with people with other vices: I don't even see it the same as others do. I don't get why people can't get over it or move on. Much like a drunk is often wondering what the big deal is when everyone is giving them the side eye for drinking.
I won't go into here the reasons for why I do what I do but I will say this: people are different and are addicted to different things for different reasons. They will never overcome them until they can at least face what they are and why they exist. Which is the exact approach I take to my cheating. Has nothing to do with love or attachment or poor morals or the media or anything. While for some people it may. For me it has to do with something in me that I am unhealthily attached to for specific reasons personal to me.
Hope this clarifies & doesn't come off offensive / abrasive. Just figured you'd want to hear the perspective from a cheater versus the speculations of those opposed to it.
@Amber
Your comment does not come off offensive at all...I truly appreciate it and it help me see things in another light.
I've never met or spoke with someone that had that vice/addiction so my post may have been one sided.
It was more geared to the individuals that I know and past experiences where they were just plain out-there.
They cheated because they want give off this 'I'm the man' persona and some cheated just because they are using the person they are with (for different reasons)...
As for my friends situation, I think his ex cheated because he was 'safe' and the other guy was a 'good time'.
There are many reasons why people cheat. It can be due to feeling neglected by your partner or you could just be looking for something else.
I also believe EVERYONE cheats (at some point), I've been on both sides...
@Amber
Your comment does not come off offensive at all...I truly appreciate it and it help me see things in another light.
I've never met or spoke with someone that had that vice/addiction so my post may have been one sided.
It was more geared to the individuals that I know and past experiences where they were just plain out-there.
They cheated because they want give off this 'I'm the man' persona and some cheated just because they are using the person they are with (for different reasons)...
As for my friends situation, I think his ex cheated because he was 'safe' and the other guy was a 'good time'.
There are many reasons why people cheat. It can be due to feeling neglected by your partner or you could just be looking for something else.
I also believe EVERYONE cheats (at some point), I've been on both sides...
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